Is an intimate relationship with a psychopathic partner really that bad?
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Psychopaths are rarely healthy romantic partners due to their inability to bond, tendency to abuse others, and minimal care-based morality (e.g., concern that one’s actions hurt another). Often they engage their partners in an abusive relationship. Many become aggressive, antagonistic, and a true danger to the emotional and physical well-being of their intimate partners. They tend to erode the self worth of those who are close to them. Even those who love and care for them.
Many use tactics such as name calling. This is done to demean, humiliate, and convey to their mate that she is considered the lowest possible human denominator. A nobody. Nothing. Worthless. He wants her to carry feelings of minimal value, as this allows for easier control.
Due to their disorder, psychopaths [intentionally] chip away at the self esteem of their intimate partners (e.g., “No one will ever want you!”). Many will label their mate’s emotional state from a perceived position of superiority. Hence, they may assess their non-psychopathic partner as:
“insecure” | “weak” | “paranoid” | “sensitive”
Although those acts listed above are based in verbal interactions, they’re still antagonistic, invalidating, and harmful. Those tactics are consistent with an abusive relationship. They take their partner’s perception of the truth (which is often congruent with reality) and intentionally puts a spin on it so that their immoral behavior is forgiven, accepted, or overlooked. Reality is altered to his benefit. Her emotional experience is manipulated and turned against her.
The brain perceives this as pain.
A psychopath’s mistreatment of their partners can negatively impact his partner’s brain and change her. Many victims begin to live their lives accommodating to the whims of the psychopath, “just to keep peace ” and avoid further emotional pain. Essentially, walking on eggshells becomes a way of survival.
Hence, the old saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me” is untrue, particularly when it comes to bullies, narcissists, and psychopaths.
Words can cause tremendous damage and tends to be at the root of psychological | emotional abuse. The end result could lead to a trauma based disorder for the victim (e.g., post traumatic stress disorder, anxiety, depression, feelings of low self worth). Words are powerful weapons and psychopaths are fully aware of this fact.
Sadly some individuals with strong psychopathic traits have caused the ultimate harm to their partners or family – murder.
A few names ripped from the headlines include: Jodi Arias, Drew Peterson, Scott Peterson, Andre LeTeve, Colin Bouwer, Colin Bouwer, Jr., Neil Entwistle, Darren Mack, John List, Jebidiah James Stipe, Santiago Martinez Jr., and Malcom Webster to name a few. The true list of individuals with psychopathic traits who have seriously injured or murdered their spouses, families, or partners is too extensive to provide.
Everyone decides for themselves the level of risk they are willing to take within their intimate relationships. Given the symptoms of psychopathy, these relationships tend to bring pain and possible danger to the non-psychopathic partner.
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