Manipulating Empathy | Grooming in Narcissistic & Psychopathic Relationships
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Not all behavior in the beginning with a psychopathic or narcissistic personality type is grooming. The emotional high they demonstrate is likely quite genuine. Many are significantly stimulated and intrigued by their new partner. However, in addition to this ‘high’ (addiction) there also tends to be manipulation.
Grooming is a process that sets a certain image in the target’s mind of who the psychopath is and his (her) past experiences.
He might create information about past partners or components of his life that are not true (deception) in order to ‘groom’ his current target into demonstrating certain behaviors.
For example, “I’m a cancer survivor” | “My ex husband abused me.” | “My last girlfriend died.” | “I was cheated on and I don’t know if I can give my heart again.”
Each of those statements can pull on a person’s heartstrings, facilitate bonding, and perhaps even elicit nurturing from the new target.
The grooming process facilitates an impression that the psychopathic individual is a kind, safe, generous, deep, loving, and trustworthy individual. Hence, when he engages in violating/ abusive behaviors it is much better tolerated and forgiven.
In his (her) “Game” the psychopathic or narcissistic individual has the advantage. There will be pain for the unsuspecting trusting target.
It will then become apparent to the target that his ‘love’ was not deep or real. This can keep a non-psychopathic partner immobilized (and invested) for quite some time trying to determine “how” a person who loved so intensely in the beginning could become so bored, uninvested, and perhaps even callous as the duration of the relationship increases.
This is the nature of psychopathy and narcissistic personality disorder. No one is bonded to, appreciated, or valued.
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