The Hopeless RomanticYou met this great guy (girl). They cook you dinner. You come home to a path of roses on the floor. Beautiful walks on the beach with wine. You’re connecting with this person. And not because of the things they’re doing, but because you’re enjoying the natural human process of forming a relationship. It feels safe. It feels pleasurable – as relationships should. And if this were a healthy partner, that would be fantastic! But if it is a narcissist or psychopath you’ve engaged with, your life is about to be turned upside down. In the beginning you would have no way of knowing the vile, hateful, competitive, selfish behaviors awaiting you in the future. Many pathological narcissist are experts at romance. When the switch in behavior from the abusive narcissistic or psychopathic individual occurs, it would not be uncommon for the unsuspecting target to ask:
What kind of relationship is this?
Who is this woman (or man)?
What happened to the person I fell in love with?
What did I do wrong?