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Healing and Psychopath Abuse Recovery

Healing & Psychopath Abuse Recovery

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psychopath abuse recoveryPsychopath abuse recovery represents a challenging life ordeal. Coming out of these relationships, many look at the world differently and wonder how the heart of someone they loved could be filled with such darkness.

Millions of mates and children find themselves bonded to someone with psychopathy and for many it’s an unsafe place to be.

Although the romantic partner targeted by the individual with psychopathy, is not the one battling an illness, he or she will in fact be the one ‘battling the illness‘ in the aftermath.

Is it fair that someone else’s disorder resulted in the necessity of a healing process?

No. However, typically in the aftermath, fairness has to take a backseat to more pressing issues – such as, emotional health and overall well being.

Abusive relationships are not ‘normal relationships’ – but rather they are usually traumatic for the victim. Exposure to a harsh, controlling and punitive partner is a shock to the system, often experienced as an assault on the survivor’s brain. After trauma (regardless of the cause) – active healing with a specialized approach is necessary.

For many, after an abusive relationship, a combination of effort, time, purposeful shifts in thinking, boundaries, and education are required to lead toward recovery. Many survivors derive additional benefit by also seeking services from a well trained mental health professional skilled in the area of personality disorder, trauma, and abusive relationships.

Is it always traumatic to be involved with a personality disordered partner?

Probably not always, because there are many variables involved with how a person responds or reacts to someone with an aggressive or controlling personality. Howeverthe likelihood is extremely high that an abusive partner will traumatize, ‘over stress’ and disrupt the emotional harmony and stability of their mates.

Factors in Recovery | Self compassion

How you respond to yourself (self compassion) is extremely important in the aftermath. Healing and recovery involves attention to emotions and, if necessary, a change in how one responds to themselves. For example,

a) Actively working to banish negative self talk. 

b) Maintaining patience with the long period of time it might take to move forward.

c) Being mindful to reduce, not heighten the emotional climate.

The healing process often requires a strong and knowledgeable support system (e.g., skilled therapist, empathic informed friend).

Gentle strength from healthy people when times are particularly dark can be invaluable. Input or guidance from those who are intense, toxic, manipulative, inflammatory, abrasive, focused on drama, or emotionally unhealthy can easily cause further damage.

Emotions need to be protected, calmed, nurtured, and gently eased back into a regulated state.

It might help to think of healing a traumatized mind as one would think of interacting with a traumatized child. We would treat them gently, with patience and nurturance, right? We would not want to repeatedly discuss the details of their abuse, or inflame their pain by interacting harshly or with impatience.

Well … you deserve that same approach from yourself (and from others) during the often raw and intense period following a relationship with an extremely insensitive, abusive partner.

In the aftermath of these toxic relationships, emotions often feel like they’ve been attacked and ravaged by a destructive force. A person can easily feel overwhelmed, out of control, lonely, in pain, and unlike their old selves.

Preparation & Psychopath Abuse Recovery

Let’s look at how many survivors, who have gone through the recovery process, approach the aftermath of these damaging toxic relationships.

Aside from establishing safety, which always takes precedence, here are a few other factors to consider in the recovery journey. (Healing is nearly impossible when there is not safety. If help is needed in this regard, please take steps to a get assistance immediately.)

A part of undertaking a challenge as tremendous as psychopath abuse recovery is preparation. By preparing, we mean attempting to make a mental shift. A position where one is willing to move forward in healing without input from the psychopathic or narcissistic partner. A shift where one no longer views themselves as a couple, but rather an individual.

This can feel scary for some, however to entangle healing with the abusive partner (e.g., needing closure from them, retaliation, etc) will maintain an emotionally charged environment that directly conflicts with healing.

Healing is about calming the system, growing, acceptance, and feeling good about yourself. Abusive partners tend not to foster those feelings within their partners. They want their mates to feel ‘less than‘ … inferior and damaged.

Preparation also involves learning what is needed in order to be aware of the facts and have a general understanding of what happened to you. You have to know what you are dealing with in order to take steps to move forward.

If one is not aware that they were involved in a traumatic relationship, it will be harder for the mind to make sense of the current emotional state. It’s difficult to heal and recover when you’re not entirely sure what you are recovering from.

Not knowing has lead many survivors down a road of unnecessary self blame or confusion regarding why they have such intense pain. Or perhaps why the pain remains present for such an extended period of time.

It is very difficult to solve a problem when there is no clarity. However, given that you are reading this here, it is likely that there is awareness or suspicion that a personality disorder could be a variable.

Psychopath abuse recovery | Neuroinstincts | © presentermediaOne of the most common ways survivors begin to approach their recovery is by finding safe and reliable recovery resources to learn more about the condition. This could be in the form of books or a knowledgeable friend who has been involved with a toxic/ abusive partner in the past.

It could also include finding domestic violence, narcissistic and/ or psychopath abuse recovery awareness and education websites, like NeuroInstincts, to gain a better understanding of the disorder. Preparation often also includes identifying a safe, empathic, and supportive friend. Or it could entail scheduling a visit with a psychologist, physician, and/or attorney who has a strong knowledge base of toxic relationships, narcissists and psychopath abuse recovery.

But whatever mode one finds most appealing, it will be important to take action toward self care and place one’s mental health, healing, and recovery first. It is imperative to moving forward.

We’d like you to watch a video we created regarding healing and psychopath abuse recovery. Although some might consider it a bit long at 8 minutes, we hope you can put aside a little time for yourself, healing and recovery. You are definitely worth it!

Rhonda Freeman, PhD | Clinical Neuropsychologist

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