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Psychopathy Researcher Discusses the Behavior of Psychopaths

Dr. David Kosson and Dr. Rhonda Freeman Discuss Behaviors of Psychopaths © 2017 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved I have to offer my apologies – the introduction I recorded to our discussion has poor sound quality (low volume). Seems the mic was not close enough given the size of the room. I am… Read More »

Why ‘No Contact,’ Intentional Detachment, & Support Help the Trauma Bond

‘No Contact,’ Detachment, & Support © 2017 Rhonda Freeman, PhD  | All Rights Reserved The combination of (non-professional) approaches I have found to be most helpful for survivors to implement in the aftermath of narcissistic and psychopathic abuse are No Contact Detachment Support Let’s look at why. Feeling deeply attached to a partner that has turned… Read More »

Video: The Trauma Bond and Mean, Hateful Partners

The Trauma Bond, Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abusers © 2017 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved You probably know that the “trauma bond” is a complex process when we look at the neuroscience behind it. On the surface, it is the abused, bonding, connecting, siding or sacrificing self for the abuser. The abuser has set… Read More »

Neuroscience Behind Idealize, Devalue, and Discard

Neuroscience Behind Idealize, Devalue, and Discard [My Two Phase Theory] © 2017 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder and psychopathy tend to rotate through partners in a relatively predictable manner. The well-known idealize, devalue, and discard cycle has been reported by many victims of… Read More »

Why Does It Feel Like Two Different Relationships When One Unwittingly Falls for a Psychopath?

The Two Phases of a Psychopathic Relationship [My Reward System Theory] © 2017 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Many women and men struggle with extreme levels of pain and stress due to relationship problems. Some couples can work through their obstacles and get back on track. But, for… Read More »

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not – Psychopathy, Narcissistic Personality, and Safe, Loving Relationships

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not – Psychopathy, Narcissistic Personality, and Safe, Loving Relationships © 2016 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form One of the most disheartening realities I have encountered as a personality educator is victim shaming and blaming. When you are a survivor or someone who… Read More »

Craving Your Ex? Addicted to a Dangerous Partner

Craving Your Ex? When You’re Addicted to a Dangerous Partner © 2016 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved  No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Did you know it’s normal for our brain to have an addicted feeling toward the people we love? Yes! It is nature’s way of ensuring we mate and also properly care for… Read More »

The Spellbinding Bond to Narcissists and Psychopaths – Neurobiology

The Spellbinding Bond to Narcissists and Psychopaths Neurobiological and Psychological Contributors © 2016 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Why did she stay? This question is at the forefront for many when they consider the actions of some abuse survivors. For the outsider, it looks like a… Read More »

Narcissistic & Psychopathic Relationships – Blindsiding and Discarding

Narcissistic & Psychopathic Relationships Blindsiding and Discarding © 2016 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Control, rudeness, and disdain will often replace the red hot, all-consuming attraction (‘love’) they have for their partners.  This is one of many hallmarks of a narcissistic and psychopathic relationship. In relationships with individuals with psychopathy and… Read More »

Healing After Trauma – Narcissistic & Psychopathic Abuse

Healing After Trauma | Narcissistic & Psychopathic Abuse © 2016 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Cruelty, psychological games, and danger are never love. This is why the breakup period or aftermath with abusers will usually require a recovery process. Healing. It is not a matter of a broken… Read More »

How Can I Love You? You Caused Such Pain

How Can I Love? You Caused Such Pain? © 2016 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Stress and abuse are very difficult conditions to endure when they stem from someone you love. When we are intimately connected with someone who is harsh, callous, and motivated to ‘spin’ reality… Read More »

Relationship Cycle of Individuals with Psychopathy and Narcissistic Personality Disorder – Idealize, Devalue, Discard

 A Common Relationship Cycle of Individuals with Psychopathy and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (c) 2016 Neuroinstincts | All Rights Reserved Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder and psychopathy tend to rotate through partners in a relatively predictable manner. The well-known idealize, devalue, and discard cycle has been reported by many abuse victims. The beginning of these relationships are usually… Read More »

Is Psychopathy & Narcissistic Personality Disorder Education the Same as Recovery

Is Psychopathy & Narcissistic Personality Disorder Education the Same as Recovery © 2015 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Education No, education on this topic is not equivalent to recovery and healing. Information is important to satisfy the natural cognitive desire to understand what happened and the need… Read More »

Are You Dating a Psychopath? | 16 Warning Signs of Psychopathic Traits

Are You Dating a Psychopath? 16 Warning Signs of Psychopathic Traits in Romantic Relationships © 2015 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved Could you be dating a psychopath? In the beginning it can be nearly impossible to tell. However, as a bit of time wears on, there are often many red flags and signs of psychopathy. The… Read More »

Treatment of Psychopathy | Common Barriers to Improvement

Treatment of Psychopathy | Common Barriers to Improvement © 2015 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved It’s natural to hope the personality disordered person we fell in love with was … less disordered. With the callous, disrespectful traits abolished, the relationship could be much better. But unfortunately, personality disorders are not easily changed. To make changes to social abilities requires sustained… Read More »

Nine Steps Toward the Road to Self Compassion After an Abusive Relationship

9 Steps Toward the Road to Self Compassion © 2015 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved After a relationship with an abuser, it’s important to be in your own corner. It will be worth it to gain a realistic appreciation of who you are – free from criticism. Work toward self compassion. Implementing self compassion is one… Read More »

Basic Differences Between Psychopathy & Narcissistic Personality Disorder [Part II]

Psychopathy & Narcissistic personality disorder differences © 2014 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved [Go to Part One]  Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition related to garnering admiration, collecting an audience (‘supply’), imposing their likes/beliefs on others, replacing old audiences with new ones, and draining the attention of others. They need positive attention. If not received, their mood… Read More »

Heredity | Psychopathy and Offspring

Heredity and Psychopathy Children and Callous – Unemotional Traits © 2014 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Can children be considered psychopathic? Research of children who demonstrate strong psychopathic traits indicate that this age group is not diagnosed with psychopathy. Rather their emotional and affective presentation and condition… Read More »

The Abuse Excuse | Let me off the Hook – I Had a Bad Childhood

The Abuse Excuse Let Me Off the Hook © 2014 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form “He told me he had an abusive childhood. So that’s why he behaves this way. I have to be patient. He doesn’t mean the harsh things he does and says. It’s not… Read More »

Using the Experience of Narcissist or Psychopathic Abuse to Grow

Using the Experience to Benefit Future Decisions © 2014 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved | No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form The learning gained in the aftermath of an abusive relationship will be more valuable to some than any degree or diploma. Psychopathy awareness, insight, and education has such a powerful impact on future… Read More »

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