Does it feel like you attract the same kind of partner again and again? One that does not add value to your life or enhance your personal growth, but rather one that leads you straight to the therapists’ office. Let’s look at certain personality characteristics that may attract unsavory characters into your life. Survivors of […]
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Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder an Illness?
(c) 2018 Rhonda Freeman, PhD What a great question! Is narcissistic personality disorder an illness or a choice? Here is my opinion. Narcissistic personality disorder is an illness. A mental illness. It is a disorder. “A choice” you mention? This is where it gets trickier. Yes, they do fully understand right from wrong; they […]
Can I make it work if I use my Cluster B Education? | Staying with the Narcissist or Psychopath
Can I make this work? © 2018 Rhonda Freeman, PhD Sometimes I hear from website visitors that they want to stay; and for those who have someone low on the pathological narcissism spectrum, I understand why that would be tempting. They tell me that they want tips that will allow them to ‘manage’ their […]
Retaliation & Revenge | Aftermath of Narcissistic & Psychopathic Abuse
Anger in the Aftermath of a Narcissistic Relationship (c) All Rights Reserved The aftermath of narcissistic abuse will often include feelings of anger. Angry that they are disordered; angry that they had the arrogance/audacity/ hatred to abuse you; angry that they possibly wasted years of your life; angry that you need to heal simply for loving […]
What about you? Self-Care After the Narcissistic or Psychopathic Relationship
Guilt and Shame | A message to survivors ‘new’ to the aftermath (c) 2018 Rhonda Freeman, PhD When you’re fresh out of an abusive relationship with a narcissist or psychopath your mind can feel on fire with conflicting thoughts and intense emotions. You might feel angry with your abuser; you might feel angry with yourself. […]
Why ‘No Contact,’ Intentional Detachment, & Support Help the Trauma Bond
‘No Contact,’ Detachment, & Support © 2017 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved The combination of (non-professional) approaches I have found to be most helpful for survivors to implement in the aftermath of narcissistic and psychopathic abuse are No Contact Detachment Support Let’s look at why. Feeling deeply attached to a partner that has turned […]
Video: The Trauma Bond and Mean, Hateful Partners
The Trauma Bond, Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abusers © 2017 Rhonda Freeman, PhD | All Rights Reserved You probably know that the “trauma bond” is a complex process when we look at the neuroscience behind it. On the surface, it is the abused, bonding, connecting, siding or sacrificing self for the abuser. The abuser has set […]
Neuroscience Behind Idealize, Devalue, and Discard
Neuroscience Behind Idealize, Devalue, and Discard [My Two Phase Theory] © 2017 NeuroInstincts | All Rights Reserved No Unauthorized Reproduction Permitted in any form Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder and psychopathy tend to rotate through partners in a relatively predictable manner. The well-known idealize, devalue, and discard cycle has been reported by many victims of […]
